As I look at young married couples, I see two people, deeply in love who slowly begin to notice the changes they would like to make in their spouse. He would be great, if he would just learn to be more handy around the house. She would be great, if she would just ask Mom for some of her recipes. It reminds me of the Queen of Hearts in Alice in Wonderland, who wants red roses, when she has beautiful white roses.
We can get to a point where a “but” follows everything we think about our spouse. I love that my husband is a hard worker, but I wish he helped more with the housework. I am so proud of my wife’s cooking, but I hate cleaning up the dishes. I loved my trip to Disneyland, but I had to wait in a line for every ride. You see how the but, diminishes the happy feelings?
Maybe it is because we found each other later in life, but Hot Hubby and I are clear that we married a person that isn’t going to change. We are still in the process of melding our two lives, so we occasionally have to talk about how we do things. Hot Hubby will begin by saying, “Do we have a way that we (insert topic like “load the dishwasher”)? Then I will think about it. If it “has” to be my way and I am willing to take this task as “mine” for eternity, then I will say “Yes, I really like it this way. Let me do it for you.” If I am not willing to take the task for eternity and never correct how it is done, then I say, “What do you recommend?” We talk about how each of us would do it, then we decide on how “we” are going to do it going forward.
At work, I see a lot of arranged marriages that thrive and last. My coworkers explain that in America, you fall in love and then you spend your life falling out of love. In their culture, you get married and then you spend a lifetime falling in love with your spouse.
I am going to spend my time enjoying the white roses and falling in love with my Hot Hubby everyday.
What color do you want your roses?
When you were a kid, did you wear your favorite Disney costume to Disneyland and after about 2 hours you were itchy and wishing for some comfortable leggings and tennies. Now that I am grown, costumes are banned by Disney’s policy: Costumes may not be worn by Guests 14 years of age or older. Hot Hubby and I cannot pass for 14 anymore.
So what is a girl to do? Lucky for us, Leslie Kay invented DisneyBound-ing! It is the art of dressing like the Disney characters with colors and style, without going “full costume”. DisneyBound is meant to be inspiration for you to pull together your own outfits which work for your body and wallet whether from your closet or elaborate shopping spree. It used to be restricted to the Parks, but Disney fans are spotting the style everywhere. If you take the brightest colors in your wardrobe, you can put together a DisneyBound outfit for your next trip. Below is an example from Leslie Kay’s site.
I tried to convince Hot Hubby to DisneyBound PeterPan on our last visit to Disneyland. But he refused to even consider the green tights I had picked. I will have to find a Disney character that wears blue jeans and a blue shirt.
Have you had any fun DisneyBound-ing?
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If I haven’t mentioned it before, I love Mickey Mouse. I have tried to be subtle, but I have Mickey in every room of my house. And I like to have “hidden” Mickey’s in places that you might not expect. The way I think, you can never have too many Mickey Mouses. When Hot Hubby first moved in, he would take pictures of the Mickey Mouses and send them to his kids. I guess the Mickeys might be a little more than subtle?
Hot Hubby and I are a perfect match, because he has a forest green thumb and mine is black and dying. His amazing abilities have turned my barely surviving plants into flowering window gardens. Who knew, from the two dying leaves, that they were even flowers available?
Yesterday, Hot Hubby came into the kitchen carrying a Mickey Mouse item and asked, “How does this water gage work?” I studied the out of ink pen, that I had stuck into an artificial plant. I said, “It is a broken pen.” He started laughing. Hot Hubby then explained that he has been watering the artificial plant for months now, but was stumped by its lack of progress. What a loving man, to even take care of my artificial plants.
Do you have any favorite items in unusual places?
At Disneyland, you spend a little bit of time waiting in lines. And if you are in my family, that means you meet a lot of strangers. My mother has never met a stranger. She can make instant friends and they are swapping email addresses after 5 minutes. Hot Hubby sees the good in everyone and remembers people and says hi to them throughout our visit. I usually say the wrong thing and then the wait is uncomfortable as we pass them in each turn of the line.
But I have learned one tip, that everyone must know! Recently, we were waiting in line behind a woman who was obviously 7-8 months pregnant. I opened the conversation by saying, “When are you due?” Her reply, “The baby is at home with Grandma.” DOH! So you guessed it, 5 more uncomfortable turns in the line.
In the next line, I asked my family to give me a better question! What can I say that will never offend a woman, but open the conversation if she is expecting. What won? “Do you have any children?” This is perfect, because if she is expecting, she will tell you about the one in her belly. If she isn’t, she can tell you about the children at home. It works well and offends no one. I am writing it on my hand, so I don’t forget it!
Do you have any children?
This week was the last trip through The Great Movie Ride. If you haven’t been to Hollywood Studios, this is a movie-themed ride that took you through the best scenes of classic movies. The ride officially closed on August 17, 2017, to be replaced with Mickey and Minnie’s Runaway Railway.
The Ride has animatronic figures, live actors, special effects, movie sets and projections to create iconic scenes from twelve classic films throughout motion picture history. The outside of the ride was styled to look like the Famous Grauman’s Chinese Theatre, one of Hollywood’s most famous movie palaces. It even had handprints in cement, which is just like Grauman’s.
Inside the ride featured scenes from famous movies such as Gene Kelly swinging from a lamp post from Singin’ in the Rain, followed by Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke singing on the rooftops of London from Mary Poppins. There was a Western, a Gangster movie, Casablanca was featured as well as The Wizard of Oz. It was a great ride, but the most current movie featured, Raiders of the Lost Ark was released in the 1981.
Disney fans are always split when this happens. Half are extremely sad and don’t want any changes to ever come to Disney World. Others are eagerly awaiting the new ride and can’t wait to see what the Imagineers have created for us. I love tradition, but The Great Movie Ride felt old-fashioned and out of date to me. I am definitely in the second crowd. Hot Hubby does not like change and he is still pouting.
Are you on Team Change or Team Pout?
One of my favorite parts about being a grownup is that I can eat good food. I don’t know about you, but I get so tired of hamburgers, spaghetti & meatballs and french fries. I am not a health nut and I do sample occasionally from the above assortment. But the best part about Disneyland are the grown up restaurants.
Now if you have young children, please skip these establishments. These are the places where I sit with Hot Hubby, away from the noise and the crowds. And I will give you dirty looks if you bring a child and they don’t behave. Children love Goofy’s Kitchen and belong there.
Our favorite adulting is done at Carthay Circle in California Adventure. Carthay Circle Restaurant occupies the 2nd floor of a detailed reproduction of the iconic Carthay Circle Theatre. In 1937, Disney’s first feature-length film, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, premiered there. The restaurant has hundreds of pictures from that evening and takes you back to a slower pace. Downstairs, there is a gorgeous bar and waiting area. But upstairs is the place to be.
I always begin my visit with a walk upstairs to the bathroom. The wooden paneling, the full length doors on the stalls, the luxury helps my heart beat slower. Once the my smile has returned, I head downstairs to let the staff know we am here for our reservation.
After a few minutes of hand holding in a corner with Hot Hubby, we are whisked upstairs to begin our immersion. Upstairs is a quiet respite from the real world. The waiters are attentive, the food is delicious and the pace is leisurely.
We always start with the Carthay Signature Fried Biscuits. Can you imagine how good it is to have cheese, bacon, jalapeno all baked into a biscuit? It is heaven on earth! We have tried a variety of dinners and each features an amazing assortment of tastes that tickle your tongue and leaving you wishing for cooking lessons. The menu changes seasonally, so it is always a new experience.
Next time you head to Disneyland and want a little luxury….try Carthay Circle. Your taste buds and your Hot Hubby will thank you!
We just celebrated Hercules’ twentieth birthday on June 15, 2017. Wow, how time flies. I can remember taking my children to see this in theatres and falling in love with the Muses. Those girls can sing!
My favorite line from that movie is when we meet Megara. She is being beaten by the Centaur, as he scoops her up, throws her down and finally holds her in his strong grasp. Hercules rushes in to be the hero. Megara retorts, “I’m a damsel, I’m in distress, I can handle this.”
I love that line. I have used it multiple times in my life, when my job gets overwhelming, my boss is asking for more than I can give, my kids are complaining or I’ve lost that loving feeling. This line, more than any other, gets me going and convinced that I don’t need Hercules to rescue me, I am strong enough myself.
What is your favorite line from this movie?